Comments for not so isolated... http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog not so random... Fri, 27 Apr 2012 23:52:18 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 Comment on Ways Homophobia & Transphobia Affect Straight People by Jessica http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=352#comment-607 Jessica Fri, 27 Apr 2012 23:52:18 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=352#comment-607 I almost deleted this comment - but I decided it is important for people to see why I do this work. John - if you happen to read my comment - gender role pressures impact both men and woman and both can be homophobic - I agree with you her. Gay fatigue and fatigue in general is something we all need to be aware of - checking out of a discussion or an issue because we tire of the topic doesn't make people's lived experiences different - I agree with you here too. You don't need to validate a transwoman's identity as a woman - and it would be the most respectful thing to do - but you don't have to do anything expect maybe not hurt her or someone else because it makes you uncomfortable. Deception is a cruel and painful reality for a lot of people including rape survivors regardless of the gender identity of their rapist. I almost deleted this comment – but I decided it is important for people to see why I do this work. John – if you happen to read my comment – gender role pressures impact both men and woman and both can be homophobic – I agree with you her. Gay fatigue and fatigue in general is something we all need to be aware of – checking out of a discussion or an issue because we tire of the topic doesn’t make people’s lived experiences different – I agree with you here too. You don’t need to validate a transwoman’s identity as a woman – and it would be the most respectful thing to do – but you don’t have to do anything expect maybe not hurt her or someone else because it makes you uncomfortable. Deception is a cruel and painful reality for a lot of people including rape survivors regardless of the gender identity of their rapist.

]]> Comment on Ways Homophobia & Transphobia Affect Straight People by John http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=352#comment-591 John Thu, 26 Apr 2012 13:25:41 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=352#comment-591 Implying that everyone who is macho is "homophobic" and implying that only men can be homophobic(last i checked women can be homophobic and don't act "macho")..I would argue that a lot of resentment towards gays is the fact that their lifestyle is being forced on people via government,media and Hollywood..i think it's called "gay fatigue". As for transphobia to me that goes without saying..i would not call a man who thinks he's a woman a woman..and the fact that there have been cases of rape by deception from transexuals is the main cause of transphobia Implying that everyone who is macho is “homophobic” and implying that only men can be homophobic(last i checked women can be homophobic and don’t act “macho”)..I would argue that a lot of resentment towards gays is the fact that their lifestyle is being forced on people via government,media and Hollywood..i think it’s called “gay fatigue”. As for transphobia to me that goes without saying..i would not call a man who thinks he’s a woman a woman..and the fact that there have been cases of rape by deception from transexuals is the main cause of transphobia

]]> Comment on How to Be an Ally to Transgender and People with an Intersex Condition by Jess http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=183#comment-179 Jess Thu, 09 Feb 2012 02:36:20 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=183#comment-179 good point - it is interesting to be in an attempt to support multiple people's preferred language - the limitations of language - don't fit for everyone. I know folks that prefer to be called intersexed, others that identify as having an intersex condition, and yet other's who say they are born with atypical birth defects. good point – it is interesting to be in an attempt to support multiple people’s preferred language – the limitations of language – don’t fit for everyone. I know folks that prefer to be called intersexed, others that identify as having an intersex condition, and yet other’s who say they are born with atypical birth defects.

]]> Comment on How to Be an Ally to Transgender and People with an Intersex Condition by Angela Erde http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=183#comment-158 Angela Erde Thu, 02 Feb 2012 22:02:23 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=183#comment-158 Thanks for writing this list! May I suggest that another thing that can be done to be a great ally to intersex people is stop using the word "condition"? See the following: The Intersex Network - Please stop using the language of disease to describe intersex if you wonder why medicine wants to “cure” intersex http://oiiinternational.com/blog/864/stop-language-disease-describe-intersex-medicine-cure-intersex/ Thanks for writing this list! May I suggest that another thing that can be done to be a great ally to intersex people is stop using the word “condition”? See the following:

The Intersex Network – Please stop using the language of disease to describe intersex if you wonder why medicine wants to “cure” intersex

http://oiiinternational.com/blog/864/stop-language-disease-describe-intersex-medicine-cure-intersex/

]]> Comment on How to Be an Ally to Transgender and People with an Intersex Condition by Angela Erde http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=179#comment-153 Angela Erde Wed, 25 Jan 2012 02:04:49 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=179#comment-153 Here is another: Don't pretend that intersex is a medical condition. It isn't. It is simply a range of natural biological variations in sex. Here is another: Don’t pretend that intersex is a medical condition. It isn’t. It is simply a range of natural biological variations in sex.

]]> Comment on How to Be an Ally to Transgender and People with an Intersex Condition by Jessica http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=179#comment-144 Jessica Fri, 20 Jan 2012 00:14:28 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=179#comment-144 Totally agree that often these two groups are conflated together incorrectly - this list is about how cis people, and lgbt cis people often mess this up - the list is about the common mistakes that are made in both of these groups... Totally agree that often these two groups are conflated together incorrectly – this list is about how cis people, and lgbt cis people often mess this up – the list is about the common mistakes that are made in both of these groups…

]]> Comment on How to Be an Ally to Transgender and People with an Intersex Condition by XIA http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=179#comment-143 XIA Thu, 19 Jan 2012 22:24:56 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=179#comment-143 Stop equating intersex with transgender people. It's offensive and very offending towards intersex people and as a intersex person i am very much offended Stop equating intersex with transgender people. It’s offensive and very offending towards intersex people and as a intersex person i am very much offended

]]> Comment on Kill, F%ck, Marry by Mike White http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=187#comment-140 Mike White Wed, 18 Jan 2012 22:34:23 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=187#comment-140 You’re right, you’re absolutely right. Out of context lots of things said of done seem heinous. However, here’s my calculus on the situation: -The actions of one of the Fraternity Men made many many many women (and men) on this campus feel unsafe. When you trust UVM to be a safe environment, little things that upset the balance can have dire consequences for the mentality of the whole. While the guy stepped up certainly deserves a pat on the back and probably some free food for being so genuine... my feelings go to the women and men disturbed by the actions of a few. What they lose when situations like this occur is not a few privileges: A house, some letters, and time to share with friends... Their world collapses. The place they thought was safe for them all of the sudden isn't. While it's not totally balanced, I err on the side of safety. I think you'd be interested in a Water Tower article written a year ago, had the same themes and the University handled it differently. As a matter of fact so did I. I'm still trying to square how I could come out differently on these two issues. -> http://community.feministing.com/2011/03/04/university-of-vermont-paper-posts-the-hipster-girl-hookup/ <- Love to hear your thoughts, Thank you for writing this blog. W. You’re right, you’re absolutely right. Out of context lots of things said of done seem heinous.
However, here’s my calculus on the situation:
-The actions of one of the Fraternity Men made many many many women (and men) on this campus feel unsafe. When you trust UVM to be a safe environment, little things that upset the balance can have dire consequences for the mentality of the whole.
While the guy stepped up certainly deserves a pat on the back and probably some free food for being so genuine… my feelings go to the women and men disturbed by the actions of a few. What they lose when situations like this occur is not a few privileges: A house, some letters, and time to share with friends… Their world collapses. The place they thought was safe for them all of the sudden isn’t.
While it’s not totally balanced, I err on the side of safety.

I think you’d be interested in a Water Tower article written a year ago, had the same themes and the University handled it differently. As a matter of fact so did I. I’m still trying to square how I could come out differently on these two issues.

-> http://community.feministing.com/2011/03/04/university-of-vermont-paper-posts-the-hipster-girl-hookup/ <-
Love to hear your thoughts,

Thank you for writing this blog.
W.

]]> Comment on Kill, F%ck, Marry by Mike White http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=187#comment-139 Mike White Wed, 18 Jan 2012 22:27:28 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=187#comment-139 You're right, you're absolutely right. Out of context lots of things said of done seem heinous. However, here's my calculus on the situation: -The actions of one of the Fraternity Men made many many many women (and men) on this campus feel unsafe. When you trust UVM to be a safe environment, little things that upset the balance can have dire consequences for the mentality of the whole. While the guy stepped You’re right, you’re absolutely right. Out of context lots of things said of done seem heinous.
However, here’s my calculus on the situation:
-The actions of one of the Fraternity Men made many many many women (and men) on this campus feel unsafe. When you trust UVM to be a safe environment, little things that upset the balance can have dire consequences for the mentality of the whole.
While the guy stepped

]]> Comment on Organization Classist Assessment – Language by Gavin Weiser http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=128#comment-124 Gavin Weiser Tue, 03 Jan 2012 18:31:17 +0000 http://iamsocialjustice.com/blog/?p=128#comment-124 This is great! Thanks for sharing. I had an experience over the holidays about some of the same things. I was at a higher-end shopping location where announcements were given in English and in French; despite hearing no French-speaking people, but hearing plenty of Spanish, German and Mandarin speaking people. http://theweiser.com/wordpress/?p=125 As always, thanks for sharing Jess! This is great! Thanks for sharing. I had an experience over the holidays about some of the same things. I was at a higher-end shopping location where announcements were given in English and in French; despite hearing no French-speaking people, but hearing plenty of Spanish, German and Mandarin speaking people.

http://theweiser.com/wordpress/?p=125

As always, thanks for sharing Jess!

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